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::5 Hacks To Be A Better Daughter!

Firstly, we should acknowledge that as a Muslimah, our first and foremost role is to worship Allah but then immediately after fulfilling these obligations, serving our parents is the best honour we can have. Allah says in the Qur’an:
“And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. To Me is your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do” [Qur’an Chapter 29: Verse 8].
Allah has endowed upon women so many challenging yet rewarding roles, but we often overlook that being a good daughter is one of the best ways in which we can worship Allah – whether you are a married woman with demands from your in-laws or a single Muslimah who is looking to get married – remember that you can live your life’s true purpose by looking after your parents.
As a working Muslimah, I have been fortunate and blessed to have parents who have always supported me in my work endeavours; however, I realise that some of us can take our parents for granted and this can lead to us neglecting our duties towards our parents even though we may not have intended to do this. So, here are a few hacks I have adopted to fulfil my obligations towards my parents:
1. Prioritise your parents over other tasks
One of the biggest lessons I have learnt as a Muslimah is that despite the demands on our time from work, personal goals and other aspirations – we must do our best to prioritise our parents over other less important tasks. It isn’t easy! However, making sure you are flexible and checking in with your parents before making other commitments outside of work life can really help you manage your family tasks and fulfil your duties to your parents. I often block out time in the weekend to see if my parents need anything and follow up on any outstanding tasks. It also helps to have an understanding employer who will be able to understand that your family comes first so there may be times where you need to prioritise them over work.
2. Communicate regularly
I find that there’s nothing better than a cup of tea with my Mum or chat with my Dad on a quiet Sunday to build a positive relationship with your parents. It’s very important to have open and honest communication with your parents, and I’ve been fortunate to be able to have a very close relationship with both of my parents. Even small chats and giving your parents time can help them to realise that they are not taken for granted – as parents get older all they want is your attention just as you wanted all of theirs as a child! Something as simple as going for a walk in the park or sitting in the living room talking about life in general regularly can remind them that they are still the most important people in your life as you get older and preoccupied with other commitments in life.
3. Be patient and good to them
I’ve met many sisters who have challenging family circumstances, some have hopes and dreams of accomplishing certain goals or careers in life which their parents do not support whilst others find themselves constantly battling the expectations their parents have of them whilst trying to practice Islam (trust me I know it’s a long battle!). We may fall into the trap of shaytan – talking back to our parents, arguing with them when we disagree on a matter or even saying hurtful things to them. But we must remember that Allah says in the Qur’an that even when our parents do not not necessarily see things the way we do, it is important to still be kind and good to them. Sometimes I have found that all it takes is a kind word to acknowledge that your parents want what is best for you so we should strive to obey and please them unless their orders go against a command of Allah. Ultimately, none of us can be perfect daughters (as much as we may try to be!) because perfection belongs to Allah alone. We can however do our best to please our parents with good words and kind treatment.
4. Give them quality time
One hack that has helped me recently to have better work life balance is to schedule outings and quality time with my parents. This could be something simple and low-budget by taking your parents to the mosque, having brunch in your favourite cafe or scheduling a shopping trip to treat them. This should be time where you give them your undivided attention and make them feel like they are worthy of your time no matter how busy you may get in life. After all, your parents most likely spent most of their lives sacrificing and giving up their own time and desires to care and provide for you. Spending time with your parents, especially if you don’t live with them, is something you try to do even if it means a regular phone call to let your parents know that you are thinking of them and that you are there if they ever need you. This is a huge positive booster in being a good daughter.
5. Shower them with gifts and du’a
There is a profound hadith which highlights how we will never be able to be truly grateful for everything our parents have done for us especially when we were younger. To this day, my father will ensure all my siblings are given an equal share in anything he buys. It is then only befitting that we do our best to attempt repaying them by gifting them with things they like – cooking them dinner, buying clothes, flowers (I love to buy unique roses for my mother) or spending on them by taking them on a trip to ‘Umrah or to Hajj – a journey of a lifetime.
Finally, the best thing you can give them is your prayers, as Allah says we should always recite: “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small” [Qur’an Chapter 17: Verse 24]. We must remind ourselves that making du’a for our parents is one of the best actions we can do for them whether our parents are still with us today or have departed from this world as the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “When a human being dies, all of his deeds are terminated except for three types: an ongoing sadaqah (charity), knowledge from which others benefit, and a righteous child who makes du’a for him.” [Muslim]
Source : ProductiveMuslim
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::Parent’s Homework

10 Ways to Spend Quality Time With Your Teen
Ideas to Help Build Your Relationship
It can be difficult to find a way to connect with teens. Now that they’ve outgrown a lot of childhood activities, it may be more difficult to find family activities they’re interested in.
The teen years are also the time when young people begin to spend more time with friends than family.
And without a concerted effort to create quality family time, many teens begin to drift apart from their parents.
Although it’s developmentally normal for teens to become increasingly independent, it is essential to invest your energy into maintaining a good relationship—even when you have trouble communicating.
Rather than emphasize the quantity of time you spend together, focus on creating quality time together. Here are 10 ways to create quality time to spend with your teen, even if it’s just a few minutes each day.
1. Turn off the Electronics
If you’re like most families these days, electronics are likely to get in the way of face-to-face communication. Set limits on screen time for the entire family. And establish a household rule that says electronics need to be shut off at certain times.
Set aside a “no electronics” time at least once a week. Even if it’s just for an hour, shut off all TVs, computers and cell phones and see what happens. It’s likely you’ll have a much better chance at getting your teen to talk to you.
2. Eat Dinner Together
Eating dinner—or at least one meal per day together—can create an opportunity to talk to your teen. During meal times, shut off the elect
3. Step Into Your Teen’s World
It’s likely that your teen enjoys things you know nothing about. Be willing to step into your teen’s world, even when it’s not something you particularly enjoy. For example, if your teen enjoys video games, try playing a game together. Let your teen teach you about it or show you something new.
4. Do Something Active
Sometimes teens aren’t much for just sitting and talking. But, if you get them to play catch or do something that gets you moving, it can lead to more natural conversations
5. Do Something Nice for Others Together
There’s something about doing a good deed that really helps improve a relationship. Whether you make a meal for a neighbour or volunteer for a community service project, it can do wonders for your relationship. It can give you time to talk and can also help your teen see the value in helping others.
6. Go for a Drive Together
Car rides can be an excellent way to strike up a conversation. One of the good things about riding in a car is that you don’t have to make eye contact. This can help many teens feel more comfortable bringing up uncomfortable subjects.
7. Go for a Walk
Not only does going for a walk give you an added health benefit, but it can also be a good way to
spend quality time with your teen. A stroll around the neighbourhood gets you away from all the distractions at home and it can give you a chance to talk privately.
8. Do a Project Together
Although many teens might complain about having to get involved in a project, they often enjoy it once they get started. Whether you’re washing your car or painting a room, invite your teen to get involved
9. Teach Your Teen Something New
Show your child how to do something new. Whether you can pass on your cooking skills or you can help your teen learn Chinese, offer to help your teen learning something new.
Don’t force it if your teen isn’t interested. However, you will often find they’re very interested in understanding how you do the things you do.
10. Schedule a Family Night
Set aside time for the entire family to spend time together.
Whether you choose to play board games once a month or watch a movie once a week, make it a tradition. This can be important toward building a quality relationship with your teen.


::Ever heard of a 11 year old professor? Hammad Safi

Thinking of a 11 year old what’s the first thing that comes to one mind? A carefree child someone who loves to play with his friends and toys? But ever thought of a 11 year old professor?
The student-cum-teacher is being hailed by people all over the country and his growth proves that Pakistan’s future is bright indeed.
Hammad Safi is a young talented Pakistani belong from mehmand agency |
He is 11 years old but unlikely his agefellows he was a teacher , blogger , graphic
designer , writer , peace ambassidor and much more -When he take admission in peshawar english spoken university for a one year super kid program - but in 1 year he groom himself so much that after his 1 year program now he is the head of super kid program and a Professor. Hammad teaches a full class of students who are twice his age. His Future aims are to make change in pakistan education system so everybody gets knowledge as he wants. He is so inspire from Prophet Muhammad ( S A W ) and great Allama Muhammad Iqbal.
He interviewed at ARY channel and said
“I don’t get bored, I enjoy it a lot. There are so many students, I teach them, I give them lecture, I have a lot of fun. Behind my success is my teachers’ hands, their hard work.”
He wants to follow Iqbal’s footsteps and dreams to be a leader one day.
“God willing, I am going to become a leader”
Hammad believes that Pakistan is not about terrorism.“I want to give this message to the world that we are not terrorists and I am the proof of that. We have talent in our country, we have everything, we only need to work hard.”
On weekends, Hammad plays cricket and football with his friends.
All our lives, we’re taught by seniors and teachers that we’ll only be wise when we’re older. All that is history and in today’s day, there is no age limit on wisdom or maturity. To prove that, we have just the example.
The kid’s glimmering confidence and the sense of command in the class . The 11-year-old’s powerful approach to teaching speaks volumes about the heaps of confidence he bags. Just as any other normal 10-11-year-old. He is willing on one day to address in UNO in front of world renowned presidents.
::Role of Law In Our Life
By:Khadija Nadeem , Grade 6 Surrey
Children don’t understand how important it is for us to know about Canada’s Justice System. I myself learnt more about it from a field trip to the Surrey Provincial Courthouse. Learning about the Justice System is especially important for immigrants, such as myself, because in order to adapt to a country and its culture, you need to understand the rules that hold together the society and environment that surrounds you. It is important for us to know about the laws we live by. I say this because we might know about the basic laws such as ‘Don’t steal’ or ‘Don’t go above the speed limit’ but our community is evolving and with that comes more sophisticated laws, and in order to obey these laws we must actually know them. A way we could find out about these type of things is through a common resource we all use daily. Through school, by asking our teachers or through educational field trips. We can also ask our parents about these laws, as being adults the law is common knowledge for them. But the largest resource we regularly use is the technology we have access to, particularly the internet. As kids living in the 21st century we all should know how to use basic technology and utilize it to our benefit. These are the types of things we can do to understand the law and knowing these laws will be the first step to a better life. You might wonder why or how but obeying laws has a big impact on your future and the career you might want to pursue. For example, if you do not abide by the laws and want to work for a large company as a truck driver the employer might not consider you if you have had a lot of speeding tickets. As you can see the way you act now will have a large impact on your future which is where the famous quote by John Heywood comes in - ‘Look before you leap’. This quote was very wisely said as it gives quite a lot of guidance in 4 words. Well, that is my last piece of advice for you and I hope that you indefinitely look before you leap.
::Marriage: A Safe Haven

By: Naima Shaikh  
After witnessing countless unsuccessful or tumultuous marriages amongst family and friends I decided to write an article about marriage. What is marriage? On the Facebook site: Lessons learned in life Inc. It states the following quote: “A relationship should be a safe haven not a battle zone.” That is my definition of marriage a safe haven.
A good example of this definition comes from Prophet Muhammed’s marriage with hazret Khadijah when the prophet first received wahi the first person he confided what he had witnessed was to his wife Khadijah who comforted him and reassured him that he wasn’t going crazy and that he had in fact been chosen by God to carry out his work.
In western media one of the main frictions in marriage is cited as money. In Islam it says in the Qur’an 4:34 “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means…”
But what happens when the husband does not have money or has very little money. Again we turn to the Prophet’s life for example. On one occasion the Prophet’s wives demanded money and goods to which the Prophet responded by saying if they want money and goods he is willing to divorce them and will personally find rich men and marry them off to them. The wives responded by retracting their demand for money and goods and chose to stay married to him.There is also the example of Khadijah who was a very wealthy lady and the Prophet’s wife she spent her money generously on the Prophet and the cause of Islam.
There is also example of Hazret Aisha and other wives of the Prophet who went without food for days but remained steadfast partners for the Prophet.
There is also the example of Hazret Asiya (Prophet Ayoub’s wife) she shared a rich prosperous life with Prophet Ayoub but when difficult times struck in the form of poverty and sickness she worked in people’s houses and supported Prophet Ayoub in every way, mean and manner she could.
But in the face of adversary not all women respond like Hazret Khadijah and Hazret Asiya. Prophet Ayoub had several wives when difficult times came namely poverty and sickness they all left him except Hazret Asiya who was a very pious lady.
Life has its ups and downs when looking for a spouse husband or wife in my opinion one should keep this in mind and look for a spouse on the basis of their religiosity not for someone who is only going to be there for the good times and is nowhere to be found when difficulties arise. Or turns into a hideous monster when poverty or sickness strike.Living in this day and age where social ills are rampant I strongly urge everyone whether single or married to read Prophet Muhammed’s biography and biographies of other Prophets such as Ayoub and Yusuf and Yaqub to gain insight and inspiration from their lives and how to deal with various difficulties in life especially marital life.
Please Note: The article though meant for both men and women focuses more on the role of women in marriage and monetary issues http://www.islamicity.org/

 

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