“Theory of Happiness”!

By: Asma Shmas
A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the constant pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness.
If we see around us we will notice everybody is restless from inside and many from the outside.
The students are restless about exams and projects and others with their job or finances. It is natural to worry about the work or anything happening with us or around us but why are we all so restless? Why are we stressed?
Whether we have work or anything else, we should have only taken it after all the pros and cons. We should do our homework, our study and once we decide to do some work or start something we should be at peace with the situation. We should be in a state of calmness which is ready to take on any challenging situation. Allah helps in ways we can never think of and saves us from problems we may not foresee. If something does happen which is not according to our expectations, we work more hard in the future or revise our action plan whilst putting our faith in Allah. A lock has to be opened to see what is inside the box or a room.
Wake-Up Call
Sometimes the difficulties or problems are a wake-up call for us. It even brings out the inner strength, inner qualities which we do not even know we have. Many times, what our inner thoughts and qualities are, that we are in need of, come at t a time we least expect or know of.
No Pain, No Gain
Even roses have thorns, then how can life be bed of roses? Let us see all this in the context of family. When parents are going through any struggle, small or big, children are observing it. It helps them to mould themselves in the face of calamities as well. When are trusted to help, it gives them lessons of responsibility and life. When children are struggling, it makes parents to think about their role in the situations. But most important thing is the atmosphere in the family which has good communication, sharing and a sense of belonging. Many families do stay together but like a paying guest or lifelong Air BnB rental.
The lifestyle, beliefs and decisions taken by parents in life decides their stress level and affects children and other family members. It does play an important role in the life of their children, which are future parents, who are going to give their children their genes and influences. Every one has their role to play in life and leave the stage when role is over or till the next scene. The parents, who have almost enjoyed priority with the young ones find it hard to take the back seat when the children get married or move away. They have void in their life which should not be.
Back To Square One
Let us think about deeper meaning of calm and modest life where one gives all due attention to all departments of life, duty, responsibility and nourishing the soul with body, be human, live a calm and enriched life with ability to have satisfaction in limited resources. Simple life and good thinking does not mean we do not try to progress.
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