By: Asma Shums
By now many of you must have taken few resolutions and kept few and broke many or ignore many and to convince your own self you must have some valid reasons of course commencing yourself. Type of reasons like e.g. I made a resolution to exercise daily or regularly but it’s snowing and very cold. I decided to diet but you know there were those parties and it was weekend even in dieting. Cheering on weekends allowed in fact on weekends we can eat our favourite food. So these resolutions are in fact the wish our strong feeling which we cannot achieve but really want to get when we are not true to our own self , how can we be true to the world , others it is said we can fool many but not all. Why should we have different images, one for our own self, family,friends, public and in general.
In And Out- we should be true, how we are inside and out because facade cannot last for longer time. Yes sometimes we have to appear differently or say things fitting to occasion and situation for courtesy or keeping other people feeling in mind but our true character should not change. If these are faults in us we should try to improve ourselves but not give lame justification to show our wrong or right.
Truth Or Dare-we are not playing truth or dare game every day. Whether we are parents or youngsters it is very important to be honest and understand truth, things as they are and face them. It helps us in problems. First of all when our inner feelings do inform us about a problem we just try to shahh it and in the first step just do not even acknowledge it ourselves. No no, think it’s not that etc, then second stage comes when we think of this must be the due to this reason that reason on time all will be okay. Lets me give it time all will be okay . Especially when there is drug problem, behavioural problem, marriage problem ,there are always signs always something which is not right or is not the way it should be there is a red flag but we choose to ignore it or not to see it .
Courage- life is lived with courage. It does not mean to attack, it means to face the reality , it means to know the strong and weak points , it means to see in light how things are ,it means to accepts the strong and weak faults and good qualities it means to accepts the truth.
Be Your Own Friend- An ostrich hides his face in sand and thinks nobody is watching No No. One has to know one’s own self. We definitely know what our real intention is many times we are afraid to come face to face with reality.
Reality check- Before it is too late when we get reality check openly on our face we should face it before. If your usually bright and active son and daughter all of a sudden like being lonely or snoops unnecessarily avoid family and friends or all the time he or she is on computer or behind doors have lots of mood swings this is a red flag. You should think and understand and talk to them if your spouse is behaving very differently than year, all of a sudden certain new things starts happening like being late often or out often paying too much attention on looks or different hobbies or behaviours which were not there from years. It is certainly to think about that does not mean we become paranoid or think bad only but it is better to be safe than sorry. Another thing is right thing at right time. Right words or action also at the wrong time loses its effects. We have courage to know the real fact, however useful or awkward for us. We can take the right step towards solutions so let’s be true without making a
resolution.
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Sunday, April 26, 2026
