ADAM &EVE !
By: Asma Ayyaz, Mortgage Broker
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he very first existence the couple of mankind is Adam & Eve. The very first husband and wife, then the race began. They become parents and their children get married and it continuous goes on….
Husband and wife, this relation is forever, first this relation is very powerful and strong yet at the same time very weak and brittle.
If there is something wrong, something is not at peace in this relation, family is affected, thus children too and wherever they go others are affected too. Our society is made up from small units called families.
Blood is thicker than water
Many times, we make or break friendships. We get along with some relatives, some we don’t. We can avoid some, some we tolerate, and some tolerate us. Immediate blood relatives like parents, children even if are not together, never breaks. Son or daughter may settle somewhere else, get married, husband or wife either may die, under any circumstances the relation is always there. In a family people stay together even if relations are not good.
Why
We still believe in institution called family. We do whole heartedly want to make these relations work. Yet irony is, there are the problem, always some or the other issues in the family.
33 percent
The passing marks are 33%, 65% more higher the study, higher are the passing marks, there are certain courses which requires more than 90% for admission. If we see basic passing percentage is 33 so if anybody has even 33% good qualities, he or she should pass in our relations and in our life.
Nobody is perfect
We are humans, not angels. We are bound to be somewhat good, somewhat bad. We all have types of feelings, qualities inside us. It depends on circumstances and our capacity to deal with it. We behave like angels or demons, depending on what we have inner strength to pass the difficult circumstances.
Life begins at home
Normally any person born is with his/her family; those who are not with families, their surroundings become their home environment.
Roll model
Husband and wife who are parents too their own personal qualities, how their relationships are with each other with family and genes in child, these all things along with circumstances makes or breaks the child. These children become adults, their behaviour, other such adults in society, all of us affect each other with our good or bad or challenging values.
Peer pressure
It is like peer pressure in the society. If few people do not care about the impact of their behaviour, decisions and do whatever pleased them, it is bound to affect some other weak minded person, even strong willed person are likely to get affected too, and other people are tempted to follow some forbidden paths or norms of society.
There is always something good out of bad and bad out of something good
If the free, whatever pleased me, behaviour is for betterment of society, person if that is to improve the state of human being in society, it is welcomed it means when in some families, they still do not let girls go for higher studies or pursue their career. In this situation it is welcomed if few dare to go for higher education or good career.
Nowadays this happens
Whenever somebody wants to act in certain manner or do something, which his conscience tells him wrong i.e. having affair, contract marriage etc bribe the person tries to quiet his inner voice which does tell him, it is wrong, you should not do, by thinking that “oh, it is not a big deal. Nowadays, everybody is doing this. Who cares about what people think, nobody is bothered_ _ _ blah blah _ _ _”. This is the effect of some bad fruits in our fruit basket of society.
Bottom line
So bottom line is that when the most eternal everlasting relationship of Adam and Eve, husband and wife is proper good, it will affect their family life, children and at last others. So let’s improve our relationship rather than avoid the issue period.
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It’s Your Choice!
Shabnam Khan – Family Counsellor
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top for a moment and think about your life. How’s your health, your relationship and your sense of spiritual serenity? Your experiences today are a result of your past choices, patterns and habits. Are you happy with the way you’re living or have you fallen into a less-than-healthy habit that you just can’t seem to climb out of?
NOBODY’S PERFECT.
We all have at least one pattern of behavior that doesn’t serve us. We eat or drink or work too much. We choose friendships that don’t really honor us, and we react instead of responding in challenging moments. Yet in most cases, we still manage to function. Sometimes our negative patterns have small costs – simply slowing down our progress- and at other times, the price we pay for our poor choices are devastating. These choices can ruin our health, relationship, career or even our family life.
You may be overeating to find comfort, drinking too much to relieve stress, or spending too many hours at the office to avoid tension at home. You have to become fully aware of the situation. The only way to do this is by being honest with yourself. The key to making lasting, positive change is understanding where your negative pattern of behavior comes from. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to meet the needs in our lives. If the decisions are based on unhealthy habits, it moves us away from greater empowerment and happiness.
We can complain all we want, but if we don’t tackle what’s causing us having these unhealthy choices, we can’t address our deeper fears and won’t be able to make true commitment to having more balance in our lives. Without a clear understanding of our motives, we’ll keep trying to break our bad habits from the outside in and then dislike ourselves each time we fail. This leaves us feeling even more hopeless and creates a vicious cycle.
The bottom line: if you want to achieve lasting positive change and become the person you know you can, have healthy choices in your life. It may be time to wake up. It may be time to gradually change direction to implement some healthy choices in your lifestyle!
Master’s Practitioner in Counselling Psychology
Registered Professional Counsellor
For any inquiries please email at
shabnam@skcounselling.ca
