By: Asma Shums
I happen to read a story somewhere. It goes like this. There was a little boy playing in the park and requested his father to play more 5 minutes wherever his father asked him to go this happened two three times. The lady who was observing this said to the father that it seems that you are very patient man and your son is lucky to have a father like you. The man replied that it is he who is lucky to spend more five minutes with his son. Then he told about his elder son’s accident few months before and how he requested not spending more time with him.
Day by Day- Life goes on day by day .we are busy in our daily routine busy studying, in our job , in our career. life is hard we are busy and timed struggling in life even successful people have to struggle work hard all are tense and worried and affected emotionally now and then so agreed life is hard . Even if one wants to spend time with family and friends cannot .the modern technology, modern life style has made life easy for us ,more comfortable and more operative but it has its side effects too. We are always on more tense to be perfect or tense to meet deadlines. One is little slow and many jump over. Ask any youngster over instagram, even if they give their every single minutes they give to facebook , twitter, instagram, snapchat etc. it is not enough.
So now the question is how to spend time with family and friends .how to take out time and mood. Connection is the key word .how it is said that turn your weakness into your strength. Same way let’s get connected .if we love someone parents, friends just say it .we are just a phone call or a whats app away. If possible we make a video call too. It’s so good is not iy ?we do not need our letters to reach by post or wait for international calls facility. We just need a phone and wi-fi .we will have to learn to switch on and off. Up to certain extent .yes we will have to train ourselves to leave our outside attention for a while when we take out our shoes when we enter home .we have to take genuine interest in life in people. Yes true emotions recognise our true feelings and honest behaviour is the base. When we take interest in life we are not self centred. We have to think and feel outside the box of I, me and myself. We have to come over selfishness of how this will benefit me and only. In any sport how a good player plays for the team, same way we have to learn to be a team player too. When we are conned with family friends and others ,we stay human we feel if we feel .we will think , we will give concern if we are concern we will help and are ready to do something even take actions. In fact when we help others or are these for them infect we are helping ourselves too. Have self-worth, respect and good qualities in us comes out thus surprising any bad from coming out Boomerang universe always gives back, can it low of karma or whatever what we so we reap. We cannot withdraw if we have not deposited. Credit has to be paid off with interest.
Participation-
when we participate it fulfills some boredom, some void in us .even if one is CEO or big shot, the joy of making a dinner or Sunday brunch with family or an evening with friends can do wonders to ones soul it can actually make us feel to be human rather than a machine. our school and universities try so hard to cultivate hobbies and teach the importance of volunteer work from early age everybody cannot be highly successful in life but when we do even a small gesture towards being human be helpful or complete a task. Give happiness to others we feel fulfilled as if we have achieve something the reason many us and old people feel that we have not achieved some great milestone or others think that way about them tell them that every [person who does their wok nicely, helps others to achieve their dreams when every small duty is done by people other can work better. We are the link a chain. When we care about others too we will include all in some or the other way on our journey of life. There is always something something extra we can do. We have to plan and increase our focus capacity not let negativity take over us in this stressful modern life, we have to come up with some solutions to balance. We will have to learn to line then just breathe eat love pray party outing relax work hard call talk wish ask inquire down to earth please excuse sorry help ask help no ego trip but trip to nature etc.
Just chill-when wife was going out she asked her husband that i am going out do you want something husband replied no that is enough.
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Tuesday, May 5, 2026
