By: Asma Shmas
Recently, I read a very good story. There was a brilliant boy… He always scored 100% in science and got selected in one of the worlds top most university. As well as got a high paying job and married a good person. He had everything we aim and dream of. He committed suicide or it can be equally worse to having acute depression. What went wrong?
He lost his job due to economic crisis, he couldn’t keep up with his luxurious life (and bills) and he wasn’t able to adjust to it. Therefore, he killed his family and committed suicide. He was programmed for success but could not deal with crisis.
We, as parents, should teach our children to handle failure and hardships of life as well as its lessons. That knowledge, that strength, which will help our children to face adverse conditions of life. We teach them how to be successful and earn good money. It is equally important to teach how money works. Instead of working only for money.
Life is full of good and happy situations but as roses have thorns there are many troubles and unfavourable situations. One has to have qualities, state of mind to deal with it. God has given so many blessings to human beings. If we live with proper and right mentality we can have less stressful life. If we deal with situations the way it should be dealt with, rather than what we want it to be, problems are solved in a better way.
We do not even realise but our ego, our pride, or stubbornness produces lack of understanding or adopting with other people.
What should be done?
As a parent we have to make our children learn to respect family members, learn to sacrifice for family, learn to adjust and find happiness in small things too. We always take pride in saying that I have raised my daughters like sons; but we never say I have raised my sons like my daughters. We have to teach our daughters strength, education, work hard and the right to explore a career etc. At the same time we have to teach our sons to give their share in house work, have soft feelings, and respect women. It is a common scenario in any home that a daughter is asked to get up and give water or food to brothers and it extends when she is married. Her husband is sitting around the couch and watching TV and she is asked by the mother-in-law. But we never command our sons to do the same. The women folk work extremely hard in the household.
A man and a woman has their roles but it does not hurt to show care by small gestures of love and act of helping around. This responsibility of having sons and daughters equally respecting each other is very important. The fathers and men of the household need to take initiative and support the mothers/wives if they command their sons to do house chores or serve guests. The family should be a team and not a divided war-zone that everyone looks out for their own ego. The families may be rich or poor, big or small, educated more or less but what matters is that it is a family obeying God and asking for His blessings.
Info: Asma Shums <asmashums@gmail.com
JUST CHILL
By Asma Shums :
Who is this?
The one liked, not getting it.
The one we got is not suitable.
The one which is suitable but not entertaining.
The one which is entertaining does not last long.
Yes, friends, you guessed somewhat right…Wife or government! 🙂
Happy Winter: Do not search me in this worlds loneliness, it is very cold,
I am here only in my comforter.
