By: Asma Shams
When & if at all, husband asks his wife at the end of the day ‘What did you do today?’ Wife is always slightly confused that what should she say? How can she answer this question daily? The same thing over and over again. How can she answer the same monotone question with a mundane answer that she did the same thing she did yesterday. She cooked, cleaned, managed & maintained the routines of the day. She took care of the children and family and did her daily chores. So instead, she smiles and says ‘I did nothing’. Do we realize that this ‘nothing’ is making everyone’s cup of tea from the morning till late night and everything in between? When she does this, it facilitates a smooth household operation. The house is what turns into a “HOME”. When she is respected, loved & cherished her sacrifice of doing nothing special is respected. In this modern world where everyone is working, the work should actually be distributed to all the family members, yet somebody still as to the lead of doing that ‘nothing special’.
Two people have to be the backbone of the house.
In today’s time, lifestyles have shifted. However, we are still the same people. We still expect more from a woman and give less. RESPECT & REALIZATION. There are two key pillars for a healthy atmosphere of any home. All the family members should have respect for each other. This means that even if we differ in our opinions, even if we do not agree or like the decisions of elders, we should still respect them and trust their experience. They have more wisdom the us. We should try to understand and respectfully show them our view points. Lives is all about having an open mind and keep your mind open for discussion. The choice of words and behaviour can facilitate any conversation to a better world.
Selfishness & short term benefits are the root cause of destruction. Tolerance teaches you to rise above yourself from only thinking from our own view point. It teaches us to see beyond our nose. Everyone in the family should be thought of and considered as an important being. Unfortunately this is very unpleasant on the shoulders of elders, parents. They are often misunderstood by children. The behaviour of grown up children is the reflection of parent’s early behaviour. When there is harmony in the parent’s relationship, the child learns. The youth being inexperienced in life fails to understand certain things and ultimately harms their own self. When parents seem soft corner for weaker child or keep patience in improving one the others think it to be injustice to them or they take wrong route of elf pity or rebellious thoughts & actions but fail to give cooperation.
So once married it is necessary to first understand the role of both parties & set some basic rules of household, take responsibility of new life together and if needed change themselves and honour each other. Start the life properly before children are given birth. This can e made joyful, interesting experience with the help of love & understanding.
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